The Hula Hoop Theory

Everything inside that circle...your thoughts, your feelings, your actions...is yours to manage.

Everything outside of it...other people's choices, emotions, and behaviors...is not.

When my son Justice was struggling with addiction, I kept trying to pull my Hula Hoop around him...hoping that if I could just hold him close enough, I could keep him safe from it all.

Trying to fix things I couldn't control. I wanted to save him, carry his pain, protect him from every fall.

But over time, I learned a painful truth:

I couldn't save him. I could only stay in my own hoop.

That realization changed everything.

• ✓ It taught me how to love with boundaries
• ✓ It gave me space to breathe
• ✓ And it helped me find peace...even in grief

Now, I carry that lesson with me every day in the form of a simple bracelet...a quiet reminder that I can only control what's inside my own Hula Hoop.

And I offer that reminder to you.